The doubts/expectations paradox

The summer before high school, I told my parents that I wanted to go out for the golf team. We had some old golf clubs in the garage that we would use to whack balls around the backyard, but I’d never seriously swung a golf club, or been on a course to play a full…

Ladies, stop crushing on fictional sociopaths!

While cold weather has the upper midwest in a vice grip, the Netflix series You is on a hot streak, trending among the most popular options currently on the streaming service. Though I had never heard of the series when it first debuted on Lifetime, I quickly picked up on the buzz surrounding it from friends, social…

Two books to kick off your best year yet!

This Christmas, my brother and I participated in a very 21st century version of the ritualistic exchanging of Christmas lists by sharing our Amazon shopping lists. Correction, I exchanged with him a modified Amazon shopping list because my actual wish list includes the shampoo I regularly reorder and at least 16 things I’m saving for…

5 things for the start of the new year

Happy New Year!! It’s 2019!! How does it feel? Some of us sprinted to the finish line of 2018, grateful to have made it in one piece. Some of us dragged our feet, reluctant to leave behind what was, perhaps, the best year ever. Maybe you’re unsure of where you stand on the whole prospect…

The joy of meeting yourself where you are

I’m a person who likes to push. I like to have a target, a goal I’m working towards. My ideas tend to balloon into behemoth monsters that take all my focus, energy, and time. I throw myself wholeheartedly into projects, and work myself to the point of exhaustion…either physical exhaustion in an effort to finish…

I should have given this toast at my thirtieth birthday party

Saturday is my birthday. I’ll be 31 years old. Somewhere around the age of 25 my birthday started to feel less like a momentous occasion to celebrate, and more like one more day in the inevitable march towards old age. Of all my birthdays, I took 25 the hardest. I saw myself as halfway to…

On the quest for self actualization, ask Google!

Let’s talk about self actualization. We’re all on this vast journey of self discovery, but somewhere along the way we hopefully realize we actually know quite a bit about ourselves, and who we are, and what we stand for, and that’s a good and comforting feeling. There’s a lot to be said for being comfortable…